Negotiate - it can be difficult to do when you don't like or trust the other person. When we are in work place situations however, it seems like it is easier to put aside our feelings and get the work done. I recently saw a slide show on this topic and it got me thinking about how it applies in divorce. It's tough to negotiate when you do not trust the other person.
Here are the Top 5 Tips that also apply when you negotiate with someone you do not trust:
1. Keep Emotions to Yourself - do not share your distrust or upset. You need to process your emotions but this is not the time.
2. Avoid Gossip - while it tarnishes your reputation in the workplace, gossip about your ex has bad effects on your children so do not do it.
3. Pick up the mirror - because the problem starts with both of you. There is not spouse who gets 100% of the blame while the other gets off 100%. Take your share of the responsibility.
4. Draw a bright line - do not allow yourself to be bullied or abused.
5. Detach emotionally - because you are moving into a co-parenting business relationship.
It is not easy to put aside your emotions when you have been betrayed, but in order to successully negotiate, you need to try it. While you may not be perfect at it, keep practicing and it will get easier.
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