Did you know that there are actually four types of divorce? Each divorce really is four separate divorces and they do not occur at the same time.
The physical divorce is often the first of the types of divorce to occur. This is the actual physical moving out or separation of the spouses. The physical divorce usually requires adjustments to daily schedules and routines.
The second of the types of divorce is the legal divorce. That's what I mostly write about here and on my DIY Divorce blog. And this is what most people think of when they hear the word "divorce." The legal divorce changes your legal rights and responsibilities.
Emotional divorce is the third type of divorce. In the emotional divorce, the spouses put emotional distance between each other and stop thinking of themselves as a couple.
Finally, there is the social divorce. Your social networks and friendships almost always change, at least to come degree, with a divorce. Married friends stop hanging around you or may be more aligned with one spouse.
With all these types of divorce come big changes. I think that's why sometimes divorce seems so overwhelming. It really does affect most everything in your life. Plus, both spouses are likely to be at different levels of acceptance with respect to all the changes that each of the types of divorce brings.
That's where divorce recovery comes in. To some extent, everyone going through a divorce needs time to heal and recover. If you have experiencing difficulty, seek out a divorce coach or therapist to help you process the changes brought on by the four types of divorce.
I agree that it takes time to fully heal and get to recover. It is really best for people undergoing this kind of ordeal to seek out help from their families and therapist.
Posted by: Hugo | July 21, 2012 at 06:44 PM